Masturbation is
considered by many to be the cornerstone of sexual health. Most
men believe that they already know everything about their own
genitals and sexual response. It’s all out there, boys will be
boys, etc. But just because you know how your tools work,
doesn’t mean you can build the Eiffel Tower. In fact most men
experience a fraction of their full erotic and orgasmic
potential. Read on for simple and fun tips on how to masturbate
for men.
Time
Required:
Male
masturbation doesn't have to always be a "quick affair". Take
your time and enjoy.
Here's How:
1.
Make time for more than a quickie.
Most guys first learn to masturbate in secret and furtive ways.
They do it quickly and need to figure out what to do with the
evidence afterward. This can create a powerful pattern of
masturbating quickly, without paying attention to where your
sexual arousal can take you. To start exploring something
different, make sure you have some extended time and privacy for
yourself, where you aren’t trying to finish quick before someone
interrupts.
2.
Turn off the porn (just for a while) and tune into your body.
Not everyone likes porn, but a lot of guys do, and while porn
can be great, it also takes you out of your body a bit with the
fantasy. This can distract you from what’s actually happening in
your body. You don’t need to throw the porn away, but for a few
times, masturbate without porn, and objectify yourself for a
change!
3.
Do a…dry…run through.
Bad pun aside, it’s a good idea to try the above suggestions,
and then just masturbate as you normally would. As you do this
pay attention:
·
Changes in your breathing: Does it become shallow and quick,
slower and deeper?
·
Changes in your body: is there tension in some places, and
relaxation in others? Is this the same every time you
masturbate?
·
How does it feel just before you have an orgasm?
·
How does it feel as you orgasm, and immediately post-orgasm?
4.
Time to switch it up.
Men learn early in their lives the most effective way to get
themselves off. And most never waver from the utilitarian
approach to self love. But sex is less like a well oiled
machine, and more like a chaotic food fair, where there is an
endless selection of ways to satisfy your appetites. So it’s
time to throw a wrench in the works and shake up your routine.
Try any combination of the following suggestions:
5.
Does your left hand know what your right hand is doing?
Do you always use the same one hand to masturbate? Most guys do.
If you’re among them, start with the simple tip of switching
hands. It can feel strange at first, the rhythm might be off,
it’s almost like sex with someone new for the first time. Enjoy
the newness, and see if a new hand can teach an old hand some
tricks.
6.
Experiment with positions.
If you aren’t an experimental type, it’s time to start. If
you’re used to masturbating lying down on your back, try sitting
up. If you normally sit in a chair, try standing, or kneeling.
As with all these changes, this might feel ridiculous at first,
and you’ll probably go back to old faithful, but see what
masturbation feels like in different positions, and notice if it
brings with it any new sensations.
7.
Get your hips moving.
The way your body moves when you masturbate is probably very
different from the way it moves when you’re having sex with
someone else. Many men don’t move at all when they masturbate.
Try to move your hips when you masturbate, simulating the
thrusting of intercourse. Notice how moving your hips in
different ways can bring you closer to, and at times take you
farther away from, the point of orgasm.
8.
Use different hand strokes.
Most men learn early on that a vigorous stroke does the trick.
This intense up and down stimulation usually ends in a good
orgasm. But there are dozens of other strokes that each bring
with them different sensations, and different orgasms. Roll your
penis in between your hands, moving your hands up and down your
shaft. Try using long twisting strokes instead of just up and
down. Experiment with different movements, pressures, and
speeds.
9.
Explore your shaft.
While most of the nerve endings on the penis are at the head,
and specifically the frenulum, many men will have spots on their
shaft that are unusually sensitive. Try putting one hand at the
base of your penis and press it towards your body while
experimenting with different hand strokes along the shaft of
your penis. Treat this like a treasure hunt, and try to feel the
difference between one side and the other, between stimulation
near the base and up near the tip.
10.
Reach around, yourself.
For many men the balls (testicles) are a very sensitive area
that responds well to feelings of touch and pressure. Take your
forefinger and thumb and make them in a circle at the top of
your scrotum. Gently tug on your scrotum as your masturbating.
This is both a way to prevent you from ejaculating and a way to
extend sexual feelings in your body. Experiment with other kinds
of touch including tickling, scratching, and rubbing.
11.
Check out the neighborhood.
While the penis and scrotum tend to be the epicenter of
masturbatory attention, if you’re looking to open things up a
bit, be sure to take a tour of some other nearby areas. The
perineum, the area between the scrotum and anus, is very
sensitive to pressure and massage, and rubbing it provides
external prostate stimulation. Speaking of which, don’t be
afraid to explore the anus, both externally and by using a
finger for penetration.
12.
Bring it all together.
Not everything you try is going to do it for you, but the idea
behind the above tips is to try lots of different things, and
then incorporate whatever you like into the ways you regularly
masturbate. Maybe it’s a different stroke, or position, or
breathing technique. Obviously there is no one, correct way to
masturbate, and even if you’ve got something that works for you,
consider the fact that there could be more out there if you
experiment with it.
Tips:
1.
Another myth about male masturbation is that you shouldn’t use
anything other than you hand. While your hand might be doing the
trick, adding some accessories can make the stimulation even
more intense, and inspire more creativity with yourself, and
with partners.
2.
Get a good quality personal lubricant . If it’s only for
masturbation you can use something that’s oil based without
worrying about condom compatibility. Oil based products are
better because they won’t dry up.
3.
Add a sex toy into the mix. It might be a vibrator, a dildo, or
a cock ring (if you’ve never tried one I recommend trying one on
your own before you use it with a partner). Sex toys can add a
completely new kind of stimulation, and accentuate the manual
stimulation your doing.
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